Month: April 2017

Lenten Safari: 40 Days/WEEKS 2 Blissful Authenticity

Disorientation: Whose Life Are You Living?


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1989 (23)

No matter how many seasons of disorientation and transition I go through, there seems to consistently be one question at the center of the experience, “Whose life are you living?”  The first time this question rose to the surface of my consciousness was at least 17 years ago.  I remember being rudely awakened in the middle of the night with a strong sense of anxiety as this plaguing question came to mind.  At the time, I was married, living in the District of Columbia, and working in corporate America.  From the outside, it appeared as if I was living a pretty normal life, and all that I needed to make it sheer perfection was to have 2.3 kids.  That was the societal expectation that I had fallen prey to as the “default” path without ever deeply knowing whether that was the right path for me nor whether it was the right time, even if it was the right path. (more…)

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Lenten Safari: 40 Days/WEEKS 2 Blissful Authenticity

Disorientation: Know Your Value


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1989 (19)

Oftentimes, when we are in the unsettled and uncertain state of disorientation, we become highly susceptible to making bad decisions that have the potential to derail and devalue us.  A wise mother of the church once told me that I should not make decisions when I’m hungry, angry, lonely, or tired–which cleverly forms the acronym halt.  However, being hungry, angry, lonely, tired or any of their close cousins is quite possible during a time of disorientation.  As someone who was jokingly but accurately dubbed the Director of Transition several years ago, I know that we must be especially vigilant during times of disorientation.  I have also learned to look for and embrace the lessons that life offers in general, but especially during periods of transition. (more…)

Lenten Safari: 40 Days/WEEKS 2 Blissful Authenticity

Disorientation: The Art of Letting Go


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1989 (18)Presently, I am in the midst of an intense disorientation as I transition from serving abroad as a mission volunteer to creating a new life, a life that more authentically reflects my true essence.  So, I do apologize for the tardiness of these posts, which evidences that while disorientation can be exciting and invigorating, it can also be very unsettling and uncomfortable.  It will disrupt your sense of balance and require you to let go of some ways of being, of thinking, of relating that may be getting in the way of your reorientation.  That is quite an undertaking in a culture where conformity, peer pressure, fitting in, and keeping up with the Joneses are accepted norms, because it may require you to release some people whose opinions, actions, and projections are unequivocal NO’s to who you be, to what you need, and to how you have been uniquely gifted.  Therefore, during this Lenten Safari we are tasked with identifying where and how we are investing our time and energy in other people’s NO’s so that we can let go of what hinders and be reoriented to what heals! (more…)

Lenten Safari: 40 Days/WEEKS 2 Blissful Authenticity

Embracing Disorientation


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1989 (17)

 

The intention, the motivation, the heart of this Lenten Safari is to arrive at a place of reorientation that allows us to embody the life we were created to live.  However, when our orientation is a bit off and we put in an order for reorientation, we must be ready for disorientation, because it will be on the menu.  This process of disorientation, which includes the discomfort of change, has to be embraced at the heart level.  Change is never easy as “the only people that like change are wet babies” according to a well-known saying.  So, during this disorientation process, it is essential to engage at the heart level with clear intentions and an openness to change. (more…)